This is My Story
Major life changes!
At 31 years of age I found myself redundant from my job (the Company I worked for had gone into liquidation), redundant from my relationship (my Partner of 15 years left me with no warning) and redundant from life in general as the changes in my life had left me terrified.
I lost my job and my relationship within days of each other and with no possibility that I could afford the mortgage on the house we had bought (where we were going to bring a family up in) meant that I had to move back in with my Mum miles from the world I had created for myself. For 3 months I was just going through the motions of existence – no job, and seemingly no hope. It was a good job that I lived back at home as I may not have eaten either!
Thinking back on how I took on the challenge of turning this around, I remember a growing feeling of being ‘fed-up’ with the monotony of doing nothing for 3 months. I wasn’t moving much physically (I had always been a fitness bunny), I wasn’t using my brain not even to read books (and I usually always have 3 or 4 books on the go at any one time). I had no social circle where I was living, so I began to feel quite restricted in my life. The whole world was moving on whereas I seemingly was not.
A Need to Get Living!
I am fundamentally a very practical person and I knew that the beginning for me was to get back into employment so that I had something to get up for each morning, something that I would be completing each day and this would be for me, no one else. After 3 months, I finally gathered myself up, rented a room from a friend back in the Midlands and got a job at a major telecoms company.
I quickly got promoted at my new job (within 6 months) and pulled my life back together as a single woman, getting myself healthy (emotionally) and fit again (physically) and building up my social life and building my confidence and self-esteem again. I felt strong, independent, a survivor! With the help of my brilliant Financial Advisor, I purchased my first home as a single woman just 6 months after starting work and I moved in with just a bed, a portable TV, a cooker and a fridge.
After 7 years of working for this Telecoms Company, they relocated the direct sales team into the same office. One of the Sales Team had just completed his NLP coaching qualifications, and I was in the right place at the right time and booked some coaching sessions with him. These sessions highlighted the sense of abandonment and loss of control I had felt when I had lost my job and my relationship all those years ago. It made me think about what I was doing with my life, how I was thinking, it challenged my beliefs and crystallised my life at the time and I didn’t like it. This led me to gather my courage to take voluntary redundancy from my employer (4 days before my 40th birthday) and I started working for myself as a management consultant.
I now realise that the life I had been living up to the point I had my coaching was the way society expected me to live. I put unnecessary pressure on myself to have a lot of material ‘stuff’, to keep pushing to achieve and strive for the next promotion, to keep moving forward blindly just to keep up with everyone and I eventually lost sight of what was important to me – that was me! Where were my dreams? Where was my passion for life?
I understand myself much better now. I have learnt to listen to my intuition, I have learnt the unique way I get results for myself. I continue to develop myself, to understand what makes me ‘tick’, how I operate when I am in my ‘flow’. Knowing that my experiences are not unique, but how we face them is different for everyone.
What is important to me is to be happy and healthy – emotionally, physically and spiritually. To be in harmony with who I am.
I believe that by focusing on your emotional health as well as your physical health, it is possible to create a sense of balance, a sense of purpose and a sense of harmony in all things you do.
I am extremely passionate about helping people achieve the best results they can to live the life they want.