Christmas is done, New Year has been celebrated, now it’s time to roll out those new year resolutions – let me see – Lose weight, give up sugar, join a slimming club; get fit, join a gym and buy new workout gear, give up smoking.
Let’s go! I hope I can last longer than I did this time last year!
Does this all sound rather familiar to you? Wasn’t that what you did at the start of last year and every year before that? Remember those feelings of excitement and positivity that were there as you went through your day, and how much effort it started to become, until after a few weeks, possibly a month or two, you gave up – oh well, I tried you will say!
Well guess what people, there are no surprises here!
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get the same result”
Just sit with that for a while. What does that say to you? What does it really say to you! What does it mean to you?
There is no law that says you have to make resolutions each year. There is nothing to say that you have to have any made for that matter, and there is also nothing to stop you making them at any point during the year, but if you are still determined and really want 2019 to be the year you make a significant difference to yourself, to your family, to your life, then you have got to be prepared to do something different this time.
If you set the same resolutions every year, be honest with yourself. Do you want to make that change or is it just something you do every year, because you want to join in with everyone else you know? How much of a chore does it all feel for you? after all you have to get back to your ‘normal’ life after the holidays.
If you have decided that you do indeed want to make that change, you might as well do it differently this time; after all, doing the same thing year in year out has not really got you the results you were after has it?
Let’s look together at the popular goal / resolution of – ‘Losing weight’.
Firstly, look at how this has been framed. To ‘lose’ something means: to be deprived of or cease to have or unable to find. From a linguistic view point we are already programming ourselves/ our brains that we will be ‘in lack or we have lost something’ (and therefore must find it again). Do you want to find your weight again or believe you have to suffer and continually punish yourself by deprivation?
How about reframing this resolution and think along the lines of – ‘Eat healthily’.
‘I chose to eat foods that provide me with the nutrients I need to be a healthy weight’
What difference does this now make to you as you read it? Does it read as a much more exciting and engaging goal to embrace? (Healthy eating means eating a variety of foods that give you the nutrients you need to maintain your health, feel good, and have energy. … When combined with being physically active and maintaining a healthy weight, eating well is an excellent way to help your body stay strong and healthy).
Have a go at the other goals you are resolving to make for this year. Review how you got on with them in 2018 (if you are determined to set the same ones), and then look to reframe how you set them.
And don’t forget, there is no failure. only feedback; so, if you find yourself moving away from the goal you have set yourself, don’t give up! Re-engage with yourself immediately! Resolve that the next action/s you take, will be the action that will bring you back (even closer) to the resolution you made for yourself for the start of 2019.
Leave me some comments and let me know how you have got on.